Hi,

I am curious to hear from others about their real life experiences on how bringing someone else into their marriage or relationship has affected them.

PLEASE VOTE UP TOP if you have had experience with this.

Is the fantasy different from reality? Did it kill your relationship?

Feel free to expound on it. Why was it negative? Why was it positive? etc. How did it affect you guys?

Thanks!

 

So there was the time I had a threesome with my boyfriend and his other girlfriend, and she got really jealous, and they broke up within a week. That one made me feel used.

And then there was the time I had a threesome with a guy I knew and his wife, and she got really jealous, and wouldn't talk to him for days. (There's a joke to be made there but don't.) That one made me feel guilty.

And then there was the relationship I had with a woman I really loved, and we were regularly having threesomes with a mutual FWB, and it went along apparently fine for a good six months, and then she got really jealous, and after trying to make it work for another month she broke up with me. That one devastated me.

 

The threesomes we done with our regular fuck buddies made the feelings we had for each other only stronger.

 

That's all horrible. Would you try again? Or are you done?

 

I always watch threads like this closely. Never done it when the opportunity came up, but I want to be well educated in case it ever does again. Thanks for sharing!

 

We've been married for 31 years , and we had our 1st 3some about 19 years ago with my best friend. And the results of that brought forth a love I thought I would never see!
She got pregnant ,and had a baby boy ! That's something we didn't think about at the time , but it brought us all closer together! We wouldn't change a thing !
We've had 3somes with other men too, and that drives my hubby crazy watching me with another man! he has always said that he loves watching me being sexually satisfied by other men or women !
I must say that I don't like seeing my hubby with another woman other than my best friend ! I know a double standard ! but that's the way I am !

 

Being this is my first post ,
My former gf and I started having threesome's with her best friend, it's every guys dream right ..
I will say in a word "amazing" .
There was just one rule I was not supposed to be with our friend with out my gf , everyone was in agreement life was great!!

Well all good things must come to an end , eventually our friends husband got to wondering why she was spending so much time at our place .

He caught us , they divorced , our friends all knew the reason why ...

 

The book the ethical slut and poly relationships. Was just watching movie the best man. The same issue between vanilla people. Threesomes move above that level. When you decide to start reguardless of single or married.
It has to start as fwb and honesty you enjoy it and any future partner must know. The movie at the bachelor party a old classmate is the lapdancer.
So as long as i am honest with myself and allow kinky people to introduce me to others. My favorite aunt is a matchmaker and she tells women i am over sexed and a little preverted. I get some inquires . the interview sorts out the drama. My experience with threesomes and D/s.
My handle is dildo mechanic a play on words and yes i think with both heads about any relationship.

 

I have not tried it but seems the odds of one getting jealous is likely to occur even if not intentional.
It would suspect it takes the right kind of person or people involved with the proper understanding.
I suspect myself I could get involved without jealousy. I do not feel I own my SO. I enjoy seeing someone taking pleasure out an experience
so I suppose in the case of a significant other if I knew she was loyal to me and will not fall in love with the other it would not bother me.
I could possibly foresee issues if they fell in love but I can't say for sure ,but as long as I could maintain perspective of it I would be fine with it myself.
I am not the jealous type so as long as I knew continually where I stand in terms of the relationship I would be ok with it even if some feelings develop.
But I realize I have an unusual point of view or attitude to it which is likely similar to those shared in the poly or group individuals.
@VenusInFurze could you comment on my perspective if you like.
I have been open to the open relationship concept but have not made any connections to any involved yet.

 

When you move from vanila to bdsm the first thing taught honest negoiations and permission of so or spouse. I have also mentored women who either discovered bdsm prior to current vanilla relationship; or they realize current so will never be a D/s. Some are online only. Example wife had 300 partners hubby had 5. We reach a point hubby would help her dress to go to a supervised playspace. So effects on relationship can work with a long distance mentor. Was done by text online when web first created.

 

I never done one, been offered to do few by couples, but I am just iffy about it. Not that I am not into it. It just one couple I talked to just seems very odd in my opinion and want to jump into it. We barely haven't spoken, let alone met to talk this through and the man in relationship seems to take charge in the relationship, reassures me that whatever he wants do his girlfriend is okay with it since she is his slave. I respect that I do I just think he just rushing things, and it just seems he wants to just play with me, rather than all three of us play with each other. He asked me to come over several times, and each time I refuse because he makes me rather uncomfortable.

 

Did the threesome continue after her divorce? It helps to like each other and your wife maintain friendship and support if possible. Hopefully the gf will find a new man who supports her fwb lifestyle. Met a couple he gave permission. When she showed up my house get hubby on phone want to verify his permission. Confirmed. Was great weekly for five years i moved out of state. So yea can work without divorce.

 

I had an opportunity years ago but I passed for fear it would ruin our relationship. I moment of pleasure was not worth a lifetime of unhappiness and regret for me in that case.

 

So very, very done.

 

I’m polyamorous. I just don’t have threesomes.

 

Glad you enjoy poly. That builds long term relationships. I will never go back to vanilla . here we can meet like minded people and share experiences. Many vanila people dont know negoiation as you found out in other hookups. Tjanks for like and sharing

 

Me and my wife have threesomes periodically, mainly with people we both know. It's bought us closer together. Just maintain try to be as open honest with your limits and feelings and everything should be ok

 

Just fantasizing about something and actually doing it, or seeing what you only pictured in your mind, is a big fuckin difference. Fantasizing about watching your wife getting stuffed by another guy, who has a very impressive cock, might be an incredible turn on and get you off good. But actually watching and seeing your wife thoroughly enjoying and getting off on another guys prick, might fuck up your head. Just because the fantasy may be good, it doesn't mean fulfilling your fantasy will be the same. Both of you have to be secure in your relationship and know that the love is strong. Because it's the love between my wife and I that's strong, and holds our relationship together. It's certainly not my 4" prick, because I watched her enjoy my friends 8. I knew she enjoyed his prick, but more importantly I knew she loved me. Honestly I did get a little jealous, because I didn't get to enjoy his prick.

 

When I checked my drawers.......it wasn't a fart!

 

I'd only have them if I was single